Wednesday, November 4, 2009

How to Save a Relationship When You Have An Ex Boyfriend To Get Back

If you've just been through a breakup and you know that there is still love between you, you might be pondering how to save a relationship when you have an ex boyfriend to get back.

Maybe you've tried the obvious methods for getting him to come back to you like begging and pleading with him, promising that you've changed and things will be different.  Maybe you've ever tried to breakup the relationship he's currently in if he's started something up since your breakup.

This would be a good moment to take a step back from yourself and take a look at how you might seem to him.  If you really have an ex boyfriend to get back and want so succeed in saving your relationship, then you're going to have to make sure you appear as someone he would want to be with.  If you're behaving immaturely, scheming and scamming to try to win him back, then how attractive do you look as a partner to him?

Instead, imagine what might work to actually lure him back in a natural way rather than through trickery.  Next time you bump into him, try just acknowledging him by saying a friendly hello, then carry on with your own business elsewhere in the room.  This is a surefire way to get him to notice you and think about you differently.

Behaving in a way that isn't expected is an excellent way to get his attention.  If you're used to constantly calling him, for example, stop.  Call him only when you really need something or have to tell him something.  Don't give him a reason to dread hearing from you.

Maybe even stop calling him altogether for awhile, then call him out of the blue just to say hello and that you were thinking about him.  Ask him how he's doing and be friendly.  He'll suddenly find himself wondering how you've been doing and what you've been up to that you're so calm and collected.

End the call on a good note rather than trying to manipulate.  When you have an ex boyfriend to get back, it's important to be honest and truthful.  It's also important to have a solid plan of action for when he starts showing interest again.

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