Monday, November 2, 2009

Can A Rebound Relationship Actually Work In Your Favor? 5 Simple Steps to Get Your Ex Back After a Rebound

Can you save a relationship and get your ex back after a rebound relationship?

We all know what a rebound relationship is... and it isn't exactly pretty.  It basically entails dating (or more/less) someone else in order to get over your recent breakup.  And it's usually used as a way to move on from the true love they've just lost.

It's a way to avoid the emotions of a real relationship.  And herein lies the key to getting your ex back and making the relationship work again:

If your ex has run to a rebound, then you have to realize that they are actually trying to avoid dealing with the pain of losing you.

Sounds a little better when you look at it that way doesn't it?  Well, it's absolutely true.

At the end of the day, it doesn't even matter why your ex lost you or if the fault was yours or theirs.  It doesn't even matter who made the final decision to end it.  The only thing that's important is that there is true love between you.

Almost all relationships that are based on true love can be saved and are very much worth saving.

If your ex is in a rebound relationship, then they're probably trying to counter exactly what they perceive to be the problem in your former relationship.  This is why you so often see girls who just broke up with a sweet, loving guy run off with some tattooed bad boy.  (Or vice versa.)

Here's why this is actually good news:

If your ex is concentrating on the differences between you and this new person, they're actually still focusing on you, and actually giving you a chance to see exactly what it is they're looking for.

You can actually use this opportunity to figure out what your ex might feel is missing from your relationship and is seeking out in this new one.  And use the time apart to improve upon yourself in a favorable way.

A rebound relationship is destined to end.  That's just the nature of it.  Your ex will eventually begin to see the flaws in this new person and remember the things about you that they once fell in love with and now are beginning to miss.

Rather than crawling back to your ex quickly after the breakup, just let the rebound relationship go through its short cycle and then let your ex come to you.  Don't be the one to chase them.  You can follow these five steps to save the relationship when your ex is in a rebound relationship:

  1. Don't try to convince your ex that you're the only one for them.  Let them figure that out for themselves.
  2. Don't over-apologize.  If you truly are at fault for something, say you're sorry.  Then move on.  Your ex doesn't need to be reminded again.
  3. Don't promise your ex that you are going to evolve into something you're not.  They fell in love with the real you, flaws and all.  Compromise is great.  Changing who you are is not what anyone should want.
  4. Don't try to convince your ex that nothing was your fault.  Don't be defensive.  Don't fight.  As the smoke clears, you'll both come around to what truly matters:  that you love each other.
  5. Do not, under any circumstances, beg for your ex to take you back.  Sometimes it's tempting.  Do not beg.
If your ex is seeing someone in a rebound, you should actually try to use it to your advantage by jumping on the opportunity to learn more about your relationship in order to actually save your relationship and get your ex back.  Remember that a rebound is actually a surefire sign that your ex is still in love with you.

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